It’s been awhile since I announced our plan to adopt and now that quite a few weeks have passed, it finally feels real. We signed our contract and sent in our first installment on May 30th.
Money is a major issue for many, including us, so I want this blog to be a resource for other prospective families who may feel a calling to adopt internationally, but don’t have the upfront funds to do so. I’m keeping a spreadsheet of all of our expenses as well as how we are funding this adoption (much of it we don’t know yet!). Through the stories of many other adoptive families- I know that God does provide.
And whoever receives one little child like this in My name receives Me. Matthew 18:5
We didn’t start our adoption because we are Christians. We didn’t want to “save a child” or “rescue an orphan” (I don’t really like those terms anyways.) We simply wanted to add to our family and knew there were millions of children out there who didn’t have Moms and Dads- so it only made sense to us.
As we get further in the process and I’m devouring books like these….
(book links: Chicken Soup for the Adopted Soul, Adopted for Life, Twenty Things Adopted Kids Wish Their Adoptive Parents Knew, Handbook on Thriving as an Adoptive Family, The Intentional Family: Celebrating Adoption)
And meeting people like this….
I now know that it was a God thing from the start, not just our desire to add to the family.
I always used to hear about how people felt called to one thing or another, but never experienced it myself. I thought there would be some blatant Divine sign that would point me to my true calling.
But I was wrong.
It starts out as a whisper, a desire, a feeling.
You are the one that has to nurture those feelings. Take the time to pray about it. Talk with your spouse. Read the Bible. Read books. Seek out people who have been there.
As you make each decision and are directed down a path, your feelings become clearer and the path becomes brighter. You will find many things that reconfirm that path is the right one.
As far as adoption, I think this is why many people don’t pursue it. They may get a small desire, but never nurture that feeling because it is instantly shot down by other thoughts: I’m too old. I have too much debt. I already have a houseful. I don’t have enough bedrooms.
My goal with sharing these words and our journey is that someone with even a small desire to adopt will take the time to find out if they are truly called to adopt.
Adoptive Parents: How and when did you feel called to adopt?
Prospective Adoptive Parents: What are those fears that are holding you back?